On days like today I always feel like being a stay-at-home mom is something like conducting an orchestra.
When I was a full-time working single mom (which according to Romney might drive Connor to engage in gun violence–sorry for the politics, but come on! that’s funny!) at the library and Connor was at day care I didn’t so much conduct as scramble. Every day was a challenge to get things done. And many days things just didn’t get finished. Laundry piled up, dinner was composed of various take out orders, the household disarray grew larger daily, to-do lists grew longer instead of shorter.
Now that I’m stay at home I try to keep on top of everything. The laundry is done when the bins are full. The pantry is always well stocked. Home-made food fills our fridge. Being at home full-time with Connor in school full-time actually gives me time for projects of my own…sometimes.
After saying all that I want to clarify that things don’t always go so well. Having an autistic preschooler means that there is a lot (A LOT) of chaos in my life. Whether it’s getting no sleep from anxiety fueled nightmares or having to constantly rearrange our daily schedule to fit in all of the ABA therapy sessions, speech therapy, mandated parent education, etc.; life is still pretty hectic. Plus I volunteered to be Connor’s room-mom and I spend way too much time on Pinterest late at night, meaning I think being room-mom=being Martha Stewart (if only!). That’s all on top of trying to run the house like it’s my job, because well it is my job!
I’m a librarian who is currently a stay-at-home mom. If I’m not making sure my house is being run darn near perfect, then I feel like I’m failing at my job. I don’t earn a paycheck so I feel like I have to earn my keep by running this house like it’s going to be in Better Homes and Gardens next month. Ok, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration. Mostly because my house is older than I am and has never been remodeled. I don’t think Better Homes and Gardens is going to do a piece on my nearly counter-less kitchen and ancient oven!
But I digress….
In order to achieve my goal of having my home run like a well-oiled machine I need to do a lot of work. Gardeners, housekeepers, handymen, all need to be directed to fix/clean/maintain various aspects of the house. Errands and chores have to be coordinated to maximize efficiency. Meals are planned way ahead of time, recipes researched, preschoolers duped into eating healthy things (sometimes). Dogs are walked, fed, cared for. Fiances are well fed, well dressed, well-loved.
So sometimes I feel like I’m conducting like this:
Like today! I coordinated a new housekeeper, discussed winter and spring plans with my gardener, met with a sprinkler inspection, dropped off 12 pumpkins, 12 trick or treat buckets, and 12 glow sticks for a preschool project, and managed to get some shopping done! Boom baby!
Other days tend to go like this: they start out well but somehow slip out of control and you’re just happy to be at one piece at the end!
Here’s hoping we have more well conducted days than days like Merlin!